Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Time...Revisited.

I have blogged about time before.  At least three times, that I can recall.  Evidently I did not say all that I need to say about the subject in those previous postings...because here I go again.

Time.


It flies.  It crawls.
We mark it, waste it, bide it, and race against it.
We all have the same amount of it each day, each week, each month, each year; but none of us ever think we have enough of it.
We all use it differently…and what we do with it helps define and direct our lives.



In Thorton Wilder’s play “Our Town,” Emily dies and is given the opportunity to relive one day of her life.
Against the advice of those already buried in the cemetery, she chooses to go back to her 12th birthday.  She sees the hustle and bustle, the baking of the birthday cake, the wrapping of presents, and family members living in the same house but hardly noticing one another.  Finally, she cries out, “Oh Mama, just look at me one minute as though you really saw me…Just for a moment now we’re all together.  Mama, just for a moment we’re happy.  Let’s look at one another.”*

Saddened by this experience, Emily returns to the cemetery with a new understanding of time.  She says goodbye to clocks and all the things we do that are governed by clocks.  She says, “Oh earth, you’re just too wonderful for anyone to realize you!”  And she asks the play’s narrator, the Stage Manager, “Do any human beings ever realize life while they live it...every, every minute?”  And the Stage Manager says, “No…Saints and poets maybe…they do some.”

My advice about time in this blog-post?  Try to be a saint or a poet...and realize this time in your life while you are living it.
 
Don't wait...

Don’t wait until you finish school, Until you go back to school…
Until you lose ten pounds, Until you gain ten pounds…
Until you have kids, Until the kids leave the house…
Until you start work, Until you retire…
Until you get married, Until you get divorced…
Until Friday night, Until Sunday morning…
Until you get a new car or home, Until your car or home is paid off…
Until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter…
Until you are off welfare…
Until the first-of-the-month, or the fifteenth-of-the-month…
Until your song comes on the radio, or your iPod…
Until you’ve had a drink, Until you sober up…
Until you die, Until you are born again…

Try to be a saint or a poet...and realize this time in your life while you are living it.

 
 

Here are some words about time from Mitch Albom’s book, The Time Keeper:
-The hands of a clock will find their way home.
-This was true the moment (Father Time) marked his first sun shadow…
-(And) every generation after…was determined to sharpen (the) concept, counting ever more precisely the measure of their lives.
Sundials were placed in doorways.  Giant water clocks were constructed in city squares.  The move to mechanical designs – weight-driven – led to tower clocks and grandfather clocks and eventually clocks that fit on a shelf.
-Then a French mathematician tied a string to a timepiece, put it around his wrist, and (we) began to wear time on (our bodies).
-Accuracy improved at a startling rate.  Although it took until the sixteenth century for the minute-hand to be invented, by the seventeenth century, the pendulum clock was accurate to within a minute a day.  Less than one hundred years later, it was within a second.
-Time became an industry.  (We) divided the world into zones so that transportation could be accurately scheduled.  Trains pulled away at precise moments; ships pushed their engines to ensure on-time arrivals.
People awoke to clanging alarms.  Businesses adhered to “hours of operation.”  Every factory had a whistle.  Every classroom had a clock.
“What time is it?” became one of the world’s most common questions…

What time is it?  Its NOW, that's what time it is.
Try to be a saint or a poet...and realize this time in your life while you are living it.
  

The Jesuit tradition of "Examen" offers some wonderful contemplative questions that can help us examine how we are using our time:

        In a place of solitude and silence consider these questions:
1)   For what moment today am I most grateful?
2)   For what moment today am I least grateful?
3)   In what moments did I sense God’s presence around me and in me?
4)   In what moments did I fail to love?

Try to be a saint or a poet.  Maybe its time.

Wednesday, October 8, 2014

From Here to There...and Fear.



From Here-to-There…
just may be the longest, hardest journey we will ever take. 
And we are very often very afraid of taking that journey.
And yet, Lord knows, we all need to make the Journey from Here to There…

We are here…with our disappointments,
But we would like to be there

We are here…with our incredible burden of guilt,
But we would like to be there

We are here…with our dead-end job, or relationship, or future,
But we would like to be there…

We are here…wandering, wondering, floundering, failing,
But we would like to be there

But the fear!  The fear of taking that journey.  The one from Here to There.
We are afraid...we are damned scared.  We are:
-Afraid of our loving relationships going bad...or going away.
-Afraid of being ill, or incapacitated.
-Afraid of the world beyond us...and the world within us.
-Afraid of others finding out what's behind the mask.
-Afraid of not measuring up.
-Afraid of living...and of dying...and especially afraid of those we love dying before we do.
-Afraid we've been believing the wrong things all this time.
-Afraid of sexuality...that of others...but of our own, too.
-Afraid of others who do not look like us.
-Afraid that no matter what the preacher says on Sunday morning, God cannot possibly love us that much. 

~From there to here, and here to there, funny things are everywhere. 
                              –Dr. Seuss

Well, buck up!  Here are some words of encouragement about the very necessary journey from Here to There.  (Material is adapted from Kwasi Kena, in the Africana Worship Book, 2014.)
 

Maybe…
We will find Life in the unexpected…
the unexpected places
where we least expect to find it.

It just may be that in those unlikely places
the undeniable sense of the holy
will overwhelm our attention.

Maybe…  
We will find Life in the unexpected…
the unexpected times
when we would rather
wallow around in the muddle of our mind
and rehash old, unresolved issues.

It just may be that Life will pierce through the wall of our wailing
and shine glory on our being
so we can see a new path,
a new direction, a new purpose.

Maybe…
We will find Life in the unexpected…
in people whose lives seem so fractured.
Yet they, like shards of a mirror,
reflect the image of Life so clearly
and profoundly
that Life becomes flesh again.

Maybe…
We will find Life in the unexpected…
in those situations that seem trivial:
a passing comment,
a line from a movie,
an image on a screen.
Serendipity turns spiritual in unguarded moments
because Life chooses to speak to us
through the unexpected.

And when…
When we find Life in the unexpected.
Slowly, we will learn to expect Life – in the unexpected,
on the Journey from Here to There…everyday.







Friday, September 26, 2014

Stop Believing the Unbelievable!

I used to believe in the Tooth Fairy.  I no longer do.

I used to believe in Santa Claus.  Not any more.

Same with the Easter Bunny: Used to believe...no longer do.

Those are the easy ones.  We don't usually bring up the uneasy ones in polite conversation.  Mostly, I think, because we would like to go on believing the unbelievable.

Do you still believe that if 100 people are praying to God for something to happen, that it is more effective than just 10 people praying for that same thing?

Do you continue to believe that violence can bring about peace?

Do you cling to a belief that God controls life and death?  (Tough one, huh?)

I have been saying to myself...and to others...for a good many years now: There comes a time to stop believing the unbelievable.  Some faith-professing friends find that bothersome for me to say, or to put in print.

Recently, as I stood with a grieving mother and her friends at the cemetery...
Watching as a grave-digger lay prone on the ground to lower the very small casket into the very small hole in the ground...
Listening to well-meaning friends attempt to speak of the unspeakable...
Reading the words of the liturgy that we used to celebrate and mourn a life that ended the moment it was birthed...
I was struck full-force with how much I truly am convinced that there does come a time for us to stop believing the unbelievable...and struck also by how harsh and hurtful such a time might be.

(I am reminded of the old saying that: The truth will set you free...but first it will piss you off!)


Is it time to stop believing that God is in charge of life and death, health and wealth, winners and losers?

And is it time to own up to our responsibility for life on this planet, and in our time?

Is it time to stop believing that 5 people praying for someone's healing won't move God to action, but 500 will?

And is it time to drop altogether any belief in a God who "moves to action" only when enough people get with the program?

Is it time to stop believing that God created Heaven and Hell, and spends time and energy assigning "good folks" to the former and "bad folks" to the latter?

And is it time to grow out of our need for eternal reward and/or eternal punishment to balance the scales of some twisted sense of cosmic justice?

Even discussing these topics can be painful for some people.  Feelings can get hurt.  Comfort and solace can be neutered.

But...when God is Grace, Forgiveness, and Presence...and is available to offer the best option in any situation; and when human beings are actually responsible for life and death, health and wealth, and winners and losers...things get a bit more believable. 

For me.



Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Improvise!

Things always go your way, do they?

Of course they don't.  For me either.

Life-Plan A never works out.  Plan B must be accounted for...and Plan C...and Plan Z.

Life is like jazz music in that respect: Improvisation is what makes it turn out great.






There is truly great evil in the world.  You want to do the right thing.  You are gonna have to improvise.

There are winners and loses in this life.  You strive for equality.  You are gonna have to improvise.  And BTW, life is not a zero-sum game.  Think about it.

Life requires commitment.  Quitting is strangely habit-forming.  You are gonna have to improvise.
And anyway, sticking-with-it can also be habit-forming.

Being the leader is sometimes important.  Being a follower is sometimes important.  You are not sure of your skills at either.  You are gonna have to improvise.





Things break.  Lives break.  Relationships break up.  You are gonna have to improvise.

Faith works...sometimes.  Other times...not so much. You are gonna have to improvise.
BTW, there will come a time to stop believing the unbelievable.

What you learned in Kindergarten will serve you well...sometimes.  Other times...not so much.  You are gonna have to improvise.

According to Isaac Marion: "There is no ideal world to wait around for.  The world is always just what it is now, and its up to you to know how to respond to it."  You are gonna have to improvise.

Sartre, the philosopher says this: "In football everything is complicated by the presence of the opposite team."  You are gonna have to improvise.




Nobody can escape the fact that: You are gonna have to improvise.

I wish you well at the art of improvisation.   Listen to some jazz...it couldn't hurt.